None of us are entirely ok, and it’s time we started talking about that.
Megan Devine
“Grief is incredibly isolating and impossibly hard. But the more we talk about it, the more we tell the truth about what grief is really like, the more people realize they’re not alone” (Megan Devine).
I am abiding (and thriving) within a sense of restorative clarity and new beginnings made possible by rest and therapeutic creative work.
- Time — along with essential boundaries, kindred support and curative methods — has allowed for perspective and recovery amidst raw assessments of my life and relationships.
- A constant practice of letting go to make space and to process and heal. (And I am inspired and energized to step into my Next, writing for healing along with rewilding and living-changes.)
But also, this season of my living includes accepting that my heart will always hold a depth of sorrow I am only now beginning to identify and have language for.
The truth is, you are alone in your grief. You alone carry the knowledge of how your grief lives in you. You alone know all the filaments of life and love that fly through you. You alone know now deeply your life is now changed. You along have to face this, inside your own heart.
Megan Devine
Learning to be okay (to accept the unacceptable) with the grief I co-exist with has created a space in my being; space that continuously invites ease and breath, compassion and understanding.
Space that reminds me that Life is ongoing — even when I wonder how I can go on …
- That Life itself is fragile and unpredictable.
- That I must promise myself to remain soft (regardless of the protective urge to harden when I am ignored, dismissed and flat-out rejected), because I am always evolving.
- That reciprocity is not a guaranteed part of relationships.
- That feelings are not a binary experience.
- That wildflower-growth (“color and bloom” springing up in unexpected places) is proof of Divine love and care — and a comfort possible in the midst of the impossible.
- That Divine guidance and possibility are constant, in spite of my ever-evolving ability to [listen and act] and persevere.
- That my capacity, ongoingness and resiliency, is far beyond anything I dare to predict or understand.
During the past few months I have been tracking my feelings + how I am using my time, because change is only possible when we are aware of our default patterns (aka the place we start from …).
Having a visual record has been clarifying, and it allows me to separate “fact from fiction” (and to cope when I fall into a mindset of “I always …” and/or “I never …” with regard to what I am capable of living [understanding and overcoming]).
Life has a way of dissolving projections and one must, amid the disappointment and desolation, begin to take on the responsibility for one’s own life… Only when one has acknowledged the deflation of the hopes and expectations of childhood and accepted direct responsibility for finding meaning for oneself, can the second adulthood begin.
James Hollis
To effect a creative recovery, we must undergo a time of mourning….a certain amount of grief [is] essential. Without this creative moistening, we may remain barren.
Julia Cameron
Just beyond myself is where I need to be:
“Half a step into self-forgetting and the rest restored by what [I’ll] meet” (David Whyte).
And so I shall be.
Thank you kindly for your presence here, Braveheart.
I appreciate your interest and support.
~love & good wishes~
2024 Right Brain Planner® Kit | field notes | Right Brain Planner® FAQ
2024 Right Brain Planner® Kit [Theme] Kaleidoscope Perspectives ✨ [Focus] — Noticing Beauty (within the kaleidoscope of your living: the ongoing, ever-changing “formations” of color and meaning)
❤️ Braveheart, as the Creator/Artist of Right Brain Planner® I am ever-grateful to have the opportunity to share my creative work online + support other creators since 2008! 🎉 This is possible, in part, by {you} and your presence here. But also because of the support of my Ko-fi patrons and the other other member/subscriber communities I host (via their presence, input and subscriptions).
P.S. I have been devoting more time to writing here about my creative practice. 😊 I hope you will join me here, Braveheart. 🎉