processing journal: grief and longing (resist editing the truth out of your life story)

I do not have to be perfect at being more mindful in order to grow and cultivate peace on this journey. I will continue to breathe deep and welcome grace as I carry on throughout the day.

Morgan Harper Nichols

What am I actually missing [grieving; longing for]?

This is the question I asked myself during a recent weekend after I felt blindsided by grief and longing to return to an earlier time in my life.

  • My mind was flooded with all the best memories of that time period.
  • I experienced an overwhelming longing to return to that time …
  • I suddenly felt intensely sad that that time was over.

I began a new collage page in my processing journal; adding in color with ink, paint and strips torn from magazine pages, and handwritten notes along with words cut out from altered book pages.

As I created the page, I began to 💭 wonder if this could also be grief I never had the ⌛️ time and space and capacity 🪫 to process during those years.

  • Because those years were also riddled with hardship and heart-breaking realities.

There are amazing memories, but that time was not a continuous stream of ease and sunshiney moments. It included traumatic realities I never want to relive.

  • As I compiled collage and notations, I allowed myself to mentally time travel …
    • New connections of accuracy came to mind regarding that time in my life.
    • I began to recall not only the precious and meaningful moments — but also the pain and suffering.
      • I also began to identify the goodness unique to this time of my life.
    • The page became a tangible chronicle of time and meaning, offering me space to release to the past what is past.
      • Processing both tangibly and intangibly helped to remember those years of my life with more accuracy.
  • The page became a mile marker of release and reconciliation (personally and relationally), making space in my present for accepting what I cannot change — and for all the possibilities that await me in the future. 🙌

[Belonging to myself] means I can hold space with everything I know — and don’t know — and trust that “what I am seeking is seeking me” (Rumi).

[Belonging to myself] has included facing my tendency to minimize my capacity + face the reasons behind my resistance in specific areas of my life.

Thank you kindly for your presence here, Braveheart. 

I appreciate your interest and support.

~love & good wishes~

Braveheart, life can feel impossible at times. And our dreams need a lot of time and energy. For me personally, I found solace within my right brain planning practice amidst some severe life challenges. Those years proved to be the trial-and-error foundation of my right brain planning practice.

There can be no growth if we do not remain open and vulnerable to what is new and different.

John O’Donohue

🙏🔮✏️ I am currently compiling the 2024 Right Brain Planner®️ Kit (with a 2023 supplement) to be ready by the October New 🌑 Moon (hopefully and with wholehearted intention). 😊

  • THEME: Kaleidoscope Perspectives ✨
  • FOCUS: Noticing Beauty (within the kaleidoscope of your living: the ever-changing “formations” of color and meaning).