Most of us cheer for {side with; defend} the underdog: a person in the midst of being “behind” or overlooked or seemingly in a situation she cannot change. We want her to know she is not alone — to feel included and to overcome the hurdles of her past.
Listen, are you breathing just a little and calling it life? ~Mary Oliver
But at some point … We are actually enabling the underdog to detour into a victim mindset. And quite possibly busying ourselves in a stint of avoidance of our own dreams … our own overcoming of obstacles {past and present} and feelings of inadequacy and invisibleness.
Our reactions to the proverbial underdog is a reflection of our own story: what has occurred; what was felt; what was believed — in the past.
Sometimes you have to kind of die inside in order to rise from your own ashes and believe in yourself and love yourself to become a new person. ~Gerard Way
Compassion is a noble character response … But when compassion is prolonged {and blind to the facts} it becomes pity and denial. At which point we are merely enabling the underdog {and ourselves} to continue down a path to nowhere. To blame the past for the present — and the future. 
Bad things happen to good people.
Acknowledge ➡ Assess ➡ Recover ➡ Move On …
Or you are doomed to become a victim wandering your way to nowhere.
Whatever you do is all right …
But be wise about who and what you believe; promote {and embrace} recovery as a practice — as a vital element of advocating for the underdog {and yourself}. And move on.
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